June and I had a little impromptu photoshoot yesterday with my IPHONE and I am so excited about the pictures! The lighting was so beautiful in this room, so naturally I had to call my best friend and ask her to pop over and take pictures of me and my gal. As a mom, I always feel like I am getting great pictures of everyone else and there are never any pictures of the sweet moments we share every day. So I took advantage of my best friend who can't ever say no and I am so glad I did!
I have been struggling this week with being resentful. I started two fights with my hubby and realized I was self-sabotaging any alone time we had in the process. As much as I love spending every waking second with our daughter, it can be overwhelming to be a good mom and a good wife. To take care of her all day and still manage to cook dinner, clean house, keep up with groceries and bills. It's exhausting! And when he comes home from work, puts on the TV, takes a nice long shower.... it can be hard to not be resentful.
Don't get me wrong, he always calls after work to see if there's something he can pick up for dinner to make life a little easier. But watching him get to do whatever he wants can get a little irritating. So we needed to have a conversation.
This is where he and I struggle... communication. It's a huge learning process for us. Ultimately, he understood that I need more help than I ask for. He gets that I need him to take over, even if she's cranky and crying, so that I can have time to take a shower or write on the blog. Do something for myself. He even offered to watch her for a few hours while I went to a meeting. It was so good for me to get out of the house and be able to do something that was healthy and beneficial to my well being, while he got to spend some one on one time with his little girl.
This is so very important ladies! Take a couple of hours each week to do something for yourself. Whether it's taking a class you've been wanting to try, going on a hike, seeing a therapist... whatever it takes to nourish your mind and take care of your spirit. A car can't run on an empty tank and although coffee works miracles, you need time for yourself to rejuvenate.
Figure out what that is for you and DO IT.
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